Top 100 Life Lessons (A work in progress…)

Posted on 27 Dec 2012


During a quantum jump a more successful me in a parallel universe told me to make my personal list of most useful life lessons. Here, in no order yet, is a first draft. I plan to revise this over time. Feel free to post your own favorite life lessons in the comments.

  1. Everything you think of has already been thought of and acted upon. Use that.
  2. Do your own research. Experts are sometimes wrong.
  3. Be curious and collect all the “facts” with an open mind. There are different sides to every story.
  4. Understand and don’t fall for logical fallacies.
  5. Decide slowly, and know the types and strengths of evidence behind your decisions.
  6. Stay calm and carefully review the details to find the answer.
  7. Know and admit when you don’t yet have enough information to answer the question.
  8. Exercise frequently. Break a sweat.
  9. Eat the good stuff.
  10. Get enough sleep.
  11. Learn to meditate. Do it daily.
  12. Find and know your mission in life.
  13. Align your intentions, words and actions.
  14. Nobody cares about you as much as they care about themselves.
  15. Forgive yourself and move on.
  16. It’s OK to be different. You’re not as different as you think.
  17. Somebody will always tell you your ideas suck. Take action anyway.
  18. You will make mistakes. So what? Make more.
  19. Make failure your friend. Harvest failures. Know outcomes and lessons.
  20. Don’t make the same mistake twice. If you do, don’t make it a third time.
  21. Ask for what you want. If you don’t ask, you won’t receive.
  22. Define your own rules for success. It’s a lot easier to rule your world than someone else’s world.
  23. People will rationalize and justify anything and everything to be right.
  24. The people who really care will still care whether they agree with you or not.
  25. You don’t need anybody’s support to make things happen.
  26. Figure out how to tell someone they’re wrong and also make them feel good.
  27. Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. You’ll be a mile away, and you’ll have their shoes.
  28. Religions and superstitions cause a lot of problems.
  29. Just because a billion people do something doesn’t mean it’s right.
  30. Everybody lies. Trust people anyway.
  31. Show gratitude. Acknowledge those who have helped you.
  32. Don’t think of cost. Think of value.
  33. Give away something you love. You’ll learn a) detachment and b) it feels great.
  34. Low calorie does not mean healthy. Stop fooling yourself.
  35. Fluoride is a neurotoxin and a byproduct of atomic bomb production. Don’t ingest it.
  36. If you don’t feel good you probably don’t need a doctor. Examine your diet.
  37. It’s OK if you don’t want to travel the world. There are lots of things to explore in your own backyard.
  38. Most TV is a waste of time.
  39. Keep a daily blog or journal.
  40. It’s OK to complain sometimes.
  41. It is easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.
  42. You might think you’re not good enough, but you’ll surprise yourself when you try.
  43. It’s OK to feel sad.
  44. Passion can go a long way.
  45. Whether you hear it or not, a falling tree always makes a sound.
  46. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Compare yourself to yourself.
  47. Love someone with your whole heart, honestly.
  48. Do what you love even if you don’t get paid for it.
  49. There is always more you can do. But that doesn’t mean you should.
  50. Humans are the only mammals that drink milk after they’ve grown. They’re also the only mammals that drink another mammal’s milk.
  51. People want you to do what they say and follow their rules. Don’t be a pushover.
  52. Most people won’t agree with you.
  53. You never have to settle. Not in a relationship, not in a job, not ever.
  54. It’s OK if you don’t like something. Just don’t pretend that you do.
  55. Don’t chase money and recognition.
  56. Try something different every day.
  57. Learn something interesting, exciting and surprising every day.
  58. Earn your own respect, then respect yourself.
  59. Fill your life with quality people and ask their opinions.
  60. Keep your environment clean.
  61. Be organized. Know what you have and where it is.
  62. Don’t have unsecured debt. Avoid debt unless it will move you forward.
  63. An education is always worth it, even if you have to pay off loans.
  64. Anger is part of your immune system. Have clear boundaries.
  65. You don’t need as much money as you think.
  66. There will always be somebody more than you
  67. Practice Happiness, compassion and contentment.
  68. Learn and practice lucid dreaming.
  69. Learn a martial art.
  70. Dance.
  71. Take yourself on dates to the movies, dinner, concerts, travel. Enjoy alone time.
  72. Plan for success. Be prepared, but trust yourself to “wing it”.
  73. When your fears are irrational, do what scares you.
  74. If you help people get what they want, you will get what you want.
  75. Don’t blame anybody for your problems. They’re yours. Establish this and work on them.
  76. Maintain your personal hygiene.
  77. Improve your appearance (style, grooming, fitness, etc.)
  78. Friendships require attention. Feed and water your friends.
  79. Find people you admire and imitate them… your way.
  80. Push your boundaries, challenge yourself.
  81. Know your limitations.
  82. Consult your death to know what matters.
  83. Learn to let go.
  84. Play a musical instrument and/or sing.
  85. Pay yourself first. Save 10% of what you earn.
  86. Become an expert at something.
  87. Cultivate your emotional intelligence.
  88. Learn to take criticism.
  89. Learn to take compliments.
  90. Be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are of your own.
  91. Keep a first aid kit in your house and in your car.
  92. Have enough food and water to survive for at least 2 weeks.
  93. Be a loyal and reliable friend.
  94. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
  95. Set aside time for planning.
  96. Develop your listening skills.
  97. Choose your battles wisely.
  98. Find work you love.
  99. Be practical, punctual and proactive.
  100. Have fun, schedule playtime/downtime, and also be spontaneous.

I keep thinking of more. Perhaps this will become my top 1,000 life lessons.

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